EP: 2 – How Self-Esteem Can Be Improved


“You Are Either Putting Something into The World or You’re Taking Something Out of The World.”
– Randy Haveson (13:46-13:49)


Many people don’t realize that low self-esteem can harm their mental health which often leads to anxiety and depression. That’s why it’s essential to take good care of our emotional, psychological and social well-being. In this episode, Randy Haveson shares meaningful guidelines on how self-esteem can be improved.


Part One of ‘How Self-Esteem Can Be Improved’

When it comes to building and enhancing your self-esteem, it’s more about finding what works for you and resonating with what harmonizes for you. Try to focus on the things that are within your control and see what you can do about them. As much as possible, spend time doing the things that you love.


“Find that attitude of gratitude and find at least one thing every day to be grateful for.”
– Randy Haveson (2:55-3:00)


Gratitude is one of the ingredients to enhance your self-esteem. When we take time to find things to be grateful for, and we feel better about where we fit in the world and who we are as an individual, we find more self-value.  Even being thankful for the simple things like the gift of a new day helps you move up that continuum towards a high sense of self-esteem. If you can find multiple things that are better, the more you have in your life to be grateful for, the better you’re going to be.


As you’re on this path and you’re starting to consciously work towards building self-esteem, it’s important to be gentle with yourself. The way we talk about ourselves can be very damaging.  So, the trick to this is to start treating yourself like your own best friend and being gentle with yourself as you’re making these changes. There’s no shortcut to building your self-esteem. You’re going to fall as you go through the process but each small step that you take has the power to turn you into something better than you were before. So find those things that are going to help you to make those small changes over time so that you can build towards having the life that you want to have like you are your own best friend rather than your worst enemy.


Small steps will help you continuously improve, and you’ll be surprised how far you went to where you used to be.


Self-esteem gives you that sense of inner stability. If you know and love yourself and you know what you’re capable of, you won’t feel the need to seek validation and approval of other people. Your focus shifts and self-defeating thoughts will not overpower you.


Part Two of ‘How Self-Esteem Can Be Improved’


Look for ways to be of serving in your daily life and it doesn’t have to be a huge thing. We’re talking about the small things you can do to make the world a better place. It’s a good idea to make a lot of deposits so that when you need to make a withdrawal, there’s plenty there for you.


“Finding ways to be of service is a universal way to improve self-esteem.”
– Randy Haveson (11:47-11:52)


It could be little things like opening the door for somebody or helping someone to carry their heavy package. If you can bigger things where you think you can be of service, then that’s great. But you must realize that it all boils down to realizing that having the heart to serve is simply just looking for ways throughout the day to help somebody else out. It’s so easy nowadays to get wrapped in what’s in it for me than trying to do something that will help you step out of your comfort zone. And what this does is that it helps you think less about yourself and more about others. If you want to serve others, you must be completely selfless. By improving other people’s lives, you start seeing that you are capable of much more than you imagined. And that’s a good place to discover more things you can contribute to our society.


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Hitting the stage internationally, Randy is a welcomed speaker that exudes raw energy fueled magnetic charisma and the relatability of a best friend. He helps audiences around the country and the world finds their paths in life and learn the self-esteem building skills necessary to be positive, productive, and fulfilled members of society.

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