An empathic warrior who has overcome many obstacles, Randy isn’t afraid to get in the trenches with his readers. He’ll help you identify — and dig yourself out from — the things keeping you buried or struggling. Randy is a survivor — a survivor of addiction, of self-hatred, and of our often toxic, ego-soaked culture. Ego is elusive. We battle to let go of it, and as soon as we do, it’s easy to get lost in ego by surprise again. Most people don’t walk around self-identifying as in need of improving their self-esteem. Yet it is most people who would benefit from the message in this book.


All with you in mind by helping you raise your self-esteem and sense of self-worth while helping you discard negative self-talk.

It’s time to build your self-esteem and truly become your own best friend — again or for the very first time — by learning a new set of skills and tools that will help you become the person you’ve always wanted to be.


Ego is usually a mask for a lack of self-love. It’s a type of defense mechanism. We use it to protect ourselves. It can keep us in power, shut out vulnerability, and keep our emotions at a comfortable distance. But that is not what happy, fulfilling lives are made of.

Our society has sold us a lie. We have been taught from an early age that if you have the “right” car, the “right” label on your clothes, the “right” job, the “right” number on the scale, then you have esteem. We have been taught that ego and self-esteem are the same thing, connected to each other. That all those outside things make us who we are. And it’s just not true. Too many times, we let ego get in the way of our success. Our society tells us egoi and self-esteem are the same thing, but they are not. This book gives you a roapmap to build self-esteem and cleanse yourself of the destructive nature of ego.

To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable;
To make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.

KNOW THE CODE 0 – 1 – 2 – 3



Wouldn’t it be great if there was a way to drink and not have to worry about DUI’s, fights with friends, missed opportunities because of alcohol, or putting your health at risk? Well, finally it’s here. By following the guidelines set with the Party with a Plan program, your risk factors will be dramatically decreased. Just like driving a car, following the speed limit lowers your risk of trouble on the road, for you and those around you. But the more you go over the limit and the more often you go over the limit, the more you put yourself and others at risk. The intention of the Know the Code guidelines is to provide clear and easy to follow directions on how to drink and lower the risk of problems.

Alcohol education has been replaying the same message for the past 40 years. The two main messages are “Just say no” or “Be Responsible.” But what does that mean? How do you know what responsible is? It’s too subjective. Responsible for one person is not responsible for another. Throughout history, society has been saying that “moderate” alcohol use is ok, but overuse is not ok. But what is overuse? How do you determine if you’re a “moderate” drinker or not? There aren’t many people who carry around a breathalyzer with them to measure their BAC throughout the night. And even if they did, BAC changes over time so it’s not always accurate. It’s time we had a new message, a real message. One that not only makes sense, but works! Finally that message is here. “Party with a Plan” using the “Know the Code 0-1-2-3” guideline gives people who choose to drink the tools they need to use alcohol in a safe and low risk manner.

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