EP: 14 – Drawing a Line Between Self-Esteem and Ego


“Ego tends to be more about ME, whereas self-esteem tends to be more about WE.”
– Randy Haveson (03:12 – 03:18)


A lot of people are still confused about self-esteem and ego, and it’s the best time to draw a line and clearly define their differences. By doing so, it can help people as they continue their life journey. Listen to this episode and get to know more about self-esteem and ego.


Part One of ‘Drawing a Line Between Self-Esteem and Ego’


Most of us are conditioned at a young age to believe that self-esteem and ego are the same. It’s like we are living in this world where we have labels on our shirt, and that same label gives us our value and worth.

But that’s far from the truth. If you must know, ego and self-esteem are not connected. It’s on opposite ends of a continuum.


“The goal here is to help you move towards a higher sense of self-esteem and away from ego.”
– Randy Haveson (06:44 – 06:50)


Given the health crisis we have now, people live in fear and panic. But let’s look at it differently and see it as just a time for uncertainty. We have to find ways on how we can help ourselves and our families.

And what do we do?

We need to be positive now, more than ever. We have to support and talk to each other. Give virtual hugs if possible. And since we are not going outside, this is the best time to reflect, look at who we are, and see where we fit in. Use this time to build your self-esteem.


Let’s talk about ego first. People with high ego need to feel like they are getting over on someone else. They tend to knock each other down to feel good about who they are.

On the other hand, people with high self-esteem tend to build people up. They have thoughts such as, ‘I want people to be happier than me’ or ‘I want them to be more financially stable.’


It means you are not intimidated by other’s intellect, wealth, or even looks.


So, the next time you see someone driving your dream car, don’t say, ‘I wish I had that kind of car.’ Instead, you say, ‘I’m happy for that person that they can have that type of car.’



Part Two of ‘Drawing a Line Between Self-Esteem and Ego’


With all the Coronavirus crisis happening all over the globe, we must need to work on our self-esteem. We need to feel better for ourselves so that we can help other people and this planet.


These days, we see a lot of motivational posts on social media. Perhaps, you’ve received messages from your friends and families asking how you are doing.  And that’s a great thing to witness! We need to be connected. And if we connect from a place of esteem, we are going to be better off.


Take a look at yourself. Reassess your life and see where you are in that continuum. And remember, there’s no wrong place to start if you need to change. You can work on your own path and get that right amount of self-esteem.


“We become a better society when more people are invested in self-esteem rather than reinforcing ego.”
– Randy Haveson (07:00 – 07:06)


Now, this whole thing isn’t about perfection. Perfection is the trait of the ego. What you need is to be the best version of yourself. When you do that, you are becoming your own best friend. And you are with your best friend; you are never alone.


Look for ways to treat yourself. Do things that can raise your self-awareness. Write a journal. Read books. Watch motivational videos. It’s time to work on your personal growth.  Again, this is the best time to take care of ourselves, so we can take care of others too.


Stay safe, stay connected, even if we need to be separated for the time being.

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